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5 Taoist Practices For The Modern Man

Stronger, yet gentler, the modern man understands that a woman’s beauty comes from within. He knows she cares deeply for her body, mind, and spirit. These taoist practices will help him do the same.

As a modern man, you know to treat your body as a temple.

5 Taoist Practices That Will Help You Master Your Modern-day Manhood

#1 Exercise Your Pelvic Floor Muscles

Much emphasis is placed on women exercising their pelvic floor muscles, but it’s as important for men.

Regularly exercising your pelvic floor muscles keeps blood flowing in this all-important male area. This taoist practice is good for the prostate, too, as contracting these muscles gives it a bit of a massage.

There are two pelvic floor exercises you should incorporate into your fitness routine.

  1. The first one is when you stop yourself from urinating, which feels a bit like lifting your testicles.
  2. The second exercise is when you squeeze hard and deep within your pelvic floor so you can feel your sitting bones move closer together.

The first exercise isn’t one you should do as an on-going practice. Instead, do it when you need to remind yourself what it feels like to contract this muscle group. This muscle memory is important for the second exercise.

For the second pelvic exercise, consider setting a target of three sets of twenty squeezes each day. If you are not sure at first, you may find it easiest to lie down and place your hands on your buttocks to feel this movement. Practice makes perfect so you’ll get the hang of it over time.

#2 Nurture Your Other Sexual Areas

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One of the most important taoist practices is to nurture your body as a whole and not just your penis. Here are a selection of Taoist exercises you should consider adding to your routine:

  • Penis stretching: where you hold the base of the penis and pull to the left, the right, then up, and then down to loosen any tight tendons and improve your blood flow.
  • Testicle massaging and tapping, which helps to stimulate your sexual energy.
  • External prostate massage using your finger to rub the perineum in a circular motion.
  • Internal prostate massage, which is a more advanced technique of massaging the prostate via the anus using a finger or a prostate massager.

MUST-READ: A Guide To Anal and Prostate Stimulation for Men

#3 Extend Your Self-Pleasuring

There are many obvious benefits of self-pleasuring, including gratification. When you extend self-pleasuring, you also extend the benefits.

Many men tend to have a single focus and that is to come as quickly as they can. When you slow down and broaden your approach to self-pleasuring, you can spread your pleasure throughout the body.

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Stimulating the penis is, of course, a central part of self-pleasuring. But there is also so much more to enjoy when you spread your pleasure to other parts of your body. Experiment with touching your belly, chest, thighs, or any part you feel moved to explore. In this way, you turn your whole body into a sexual organ and not just your penis. Imagine that amount of pleasure!

#4 Separate Your Orgasm From Ejaculation

Often, men are under the impression that orgasm and ejaculation happen at the same time when orgasm actually starts before ejaculation.

If you can retrain your body to separate the two, to hold back from ejaculation and enjoy a full body orgasm, you will experience something wonderful, energetic and deeply satisfying. It will take a fair bit of time and perseverance to get there, but the effort really is worth it. This is one of the most ancient taoist practices.

Each man might experience it slightly differently, but essentially it is a shaking and fantastically pleasurable electric pulse that works through the whole body and is especially focused on the spine.

#5 Learn To Control Your Ejaculation

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Once you’ve trained yourself to separate orgasm from ejaculation, you’re able to focus on controlling ejaculation.

Controlling ejaculation needs practice and involves a fair bit of masturbation. It starts out as normal self-pleasuring, but when you feel yourself at the brink of ejaculation, hold back.

Then carry on pleasuring yourself until you’re back at the brink and then hold back again.

Repeat this a number of times, each time getting even closer to ejaculation until you decide it’s time to ejaculate. It is inevitable that you’ll go a bit too far every now and then, but with enough practice, you’ll be the master over your ejaculation instead of the other way around.

These 5 Taoist tips will deepen your connection with your inner self while strengthening your outer control. It won’t happen instantly, but with practice, time and patience, you will be the master of your own manhood.

Some of the information has been taken from Rude Magazine | Art from the amazing Thomas Saliot

Much Love, Adina

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Losing Your Reputation in 5 Easy Steps ;)

We were just joking about the 5 Easy Steps, but we do think it’s time to lose the reputation you’ve been trying so hard to protect! So here’s a story by (and about) Celeste that we think will help you find your freedom instead…

When the rumors started

One Monday morning in 8th grade, as I jogged slowly around the block with my fellow students in PE class in the small town where I grew up, one of my classmates jogged up next to me, “So, I heard you gave head to John last night in Nate’s treehouse.” Simultaneously, I felt the wind knocked out of me and my flight response kicked in full-force. I started to run as fast as I could – Looking back now, I know I was trying to run away from this image of me as a girl who would give a blowjob at a party to someone she wasn’t even really dating. Never having been any kind of jock, it was certainly the fastest I’d ever run in PE.

Nevermind that the furthest I had ever gone with a boy was a french kiss and a little touching of my breasts over the shirt. But for the sake of the rumor mill, the fact that I had breasts – really big ones for my young age combined with my flirtatious personality were enough to brand me a slut. When I first heard the news I felt a very strong need to clear up my reputation, to make sure people knew that I had done no such thing. At the same time, I was perhaps lucky to have been born in the early 70’s into a family who had fully embraced being part of the hippie counterculture. It had never been our motto to fit in or be what everyone else thought we should be. My dad was an avid stoner and, by this time, my mom had already begun her career as a Tarot reader.

And I, whether I liked it or not, was going to be seen as a slut. It didn’t take me too long to stop running and to wholeheartedly embrace the slut image. After all, I was really horney. I loved to flirt and feel people’s attraction towards me. Though I didn’t have sex with lots of guys, I started having sex relatively early and had had 5 partners by the end of high school. I also loved to make out at parties and I really, really loved dressing sexy. I liked the attention and I liked showing off my big, beautiful breasts.

Letting the “Good Girl” Go

There was something about losing the reputation of being a “good girl”, (something I still love to be called during sex), that also freed me up from worrying too much about being good in general. We, humans, are complex creatures, and to pretend that all of our motives and actions come from a place of love, generosity, and positive purpose is a lie. What’s more, even when we are coming from a place of love, generosity, and positive purpose, others may still see or experience what we are doing differently. They may even feel harmed by something that we are offering from this place.

The wonderful thing about losing your reputation, early and often, is that you don’t have to be shameful, or guilty, or defensive when you do something from the not-so-full-of-love-and-light part of yourself – from the childish, vindictive, or narcissistic part. And, you don’t have to defend yourself if you are doing something from a place of positive intention and someone else experiences what you’ve done as hurtful. Instead, you can “cop to it”. When you can be honest about not being perfect and you can let go of having to be seen as perfect, you get to be human and you get to be more connected.

So, go ahead and ruin your reputation

Think about it, if you have to defend against, divorce yourself from, or hide from anyone who thinks that something about you isn’t perfect or who is harmed by your best intentions, you will spend a lot of time defending, divorcing yourself, and hiding. If, instead, you step towards people and acknowledge your imperfections and hear their pain.You may even know that they are most certainly gossiping about you behind your back and you can let go of needing that to be different because you can now walk in the world with openness. People may look at you and shake their head disapprovingly saying, “She (or he) is shameless” and you will know that they are right. Turns out being free of shame is not such a bad thing.

 

  • Photo by Raj Bandyopadhyay

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In Relationships You Need to Mind the Gap

If a relationship lasts long enough, it is inevitable that you will eventually experience The Gap – and the gap gets in the way of so much of happiness. But, let’s not get ahead of ourselves. Before we take a look at all the problems the gap causes and what the heck we can do about it, we must first define it.

The gap, friends, is that pesky difference between who you first imagined your partner was and the person who is actually sitting in front of you. The gap happens for sooooooo many reasons. To read more about all of the reasons and how you can help couples, click here.

  1. Romantic Projection – you are told so many stories about what love is supposed to be, that it colors the way that you look at a potential partner. In order for them to meet the romantic fantasy of being a perfect match, you only see the parts of them that fit into that picture, or, if you are quite good at magical thinking, you manage to see those parts even when they aren’t there at all!
  2. Marketing – at the beginning, your partner was putting their best foot forward. Because humans are social creatures who know what people usually want in a partner and a potential partner can also read all the signals you put out about what you like and don’t like, when you met they emphasized the things about themselves that fit into this image. In other words, they tried very hard to be what they thought you wanted them to be so that you would like them. Marketing can include hiding the parts of themselves they think you won’t like, slightly exaggerating traits you seem to like about them, or just straight up lying to win your favor.
  3. Circumstance – whenever, however and wherever you met, the activities you were engaging in or they way you were living your life made you seem like you were more compatible than you really are. For example, you met in school where you had so much in common because…you were both going to school!!! Now, you are out in the real world and it turns out that your interests, or how you like to spend your time, or how often you have energy to have sex have completely changed.

We are sure now that you are thinking about it, you can come up with some of the problems the gap causes. It can cause you to think that you were tricked or that your partner used to love you, but doesn’t love you anymore. It can cause you to go on a partner improvement spree, where you try to get your partner to be all the ways that you thought they were. It can cause you to feel like you made a wrong choice and, if you just keep looking, you will find the person that meets all of these needs.

We’d like to offer a different approach  – we’d like you to Mind the Gap, by which we mean, keep in mind that the Gap will be there in every relationship. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t wholeheartedly enjoy the beginning where everything feels perfect -being so doped up on hormones and projections that your feet don’t touch the ground is one of the funnest parts of the whole adventure. We suggest you enjoy the shit out of it! At the same time, remember that the Gap will show up eventually and, while we wholeheartedly support you allowing yourself to feel all the feelings, and have all the tantrums (for more on how to have a good, connected tantrum with your partner check out our book Making Love Real) you need to have, we also encourage you to not make the Gap mean that your partner doesn’t love you or that you just haven’t found “the one” or that you can get back to how you (never really) were if you just try hard enough.

Yes, we want you to be Mindful of the Gap, to watch the insidious way that the difference between who you thought your partner was and who they actually are can get between the two of you. Instead of twisting it into some horrible tragedy, we want you to learn how to step over it be accepting the person who is actually sitting across from you and experience real love.

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This Halloween, Let’s Talk About Your Thorny Partner…

When you’ve been with someone for a long time, it can be challenging to transition into sex, especially if you are yourself or happen to have a thorny partner. What is a thorny partner, you ask? Great question! A thorny partner is a partner that is both horny and has some prickly challenges with transitioning or getting in the mood for sex. In other words, a person who has two parts inside them, one that really wants sex (the horny part) and one that kind of avoid or feels averse to sex when it first starts (the thorny part). This can be very challenging because the thorny part makes their partner feel rejected, while the horny part feels rejected that their partner isn’t trying harder.

So, how do you deal with Thorniness in your relationship?

If you are the thorny partner the first step is knowing that it is true for you without any judgment. There are so many reasons why people can be thorny and not feel ready to jump right into sex. You may feel in your head and even annoyed after having been focused on work all day. Or, you may also have been brought up in a very shame-based atmosphere around sex so, before you are aroused, there is an unconscious but strong part of you that thinks sex is yucky or trivial. That’s ok, the great thing is that, once you are aroused, this part generally shuts down or switches over to become part of your arousal.

If You Are the Thorny Partner

It will be really helpful to your partner to tell them about your thorniness, so that they know it is not about them. Then, let them know what kinds of things they should do to help you overcome those feelings. Perhaps you will want to ask them if you can run away and they will chase you or if it is ok with them if you are not particularly responsive when they first make their moves, but they should keep going. Also, if there is some way for you to signal to them that you are feeling thorny but you want them to keep trying, make up a shared signal for this!

If You Are the Partner of a Thorny Person

The first step is to try your hardest not to take it personally. It is not a rejection of you, but a residual product of being in an over-worked, sex-negative society. It is important that you know that just because they are thorny, it doesn’t mean that they want you to give up on them. Let them know that you totally understand that it is hard for them to get in the mood and see if they can articulate to you what words or signals mean that they really want you to stop and what words or signals mean that they want you to keep trying and see if they can get in the mood. As long as you have a shared verbal or non-verbal language around this, you can feel like it is ok to keep trying to see if you can move beyond the thorns to the horns!

We hope that knowing there are thorny folks out there, knowing that you don’t have to be ashamed of it, knowing it can be hard on a partner, and having a team approach to it will help you have a Happy, Horny Halloween!!!

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How Cockfidence Helped me Succeed at a Sex Party

“I don’t know who you are, but that strap-on you’re wearing … mmm… just WORKS for you,” I said to her, walking up to her slowly and looking into her eyes. “Oh, thank you,” she replied playfully, “Would you like a kiss?”

We made out for a bit. “Unfortunately, I have to move on,” she pouted her delicious lips and said, pointing to a group of people beckoning to her. Wiggling her shapely ass at me, she asked, “One for the road?” Since she asked nicely, I obliged.

This was such a different play party experience for me

In the past, play parties have been a stressful place. I’ve been the guy who creepily hangs out in a corner looking sad and pathetic because he’s all alone and doesn’t know what to do while everyone else around him is having a great time. I’ve been the guy who has tons of great conversations with women, only to have them fizzle out to a friendly, awkward sputter. I’ve been the guy who’s been rejected many, many times by women who are “only here to watch”, only to watch them 10 minutes later in the throes of passion with another guy.

In short, play parties are like real life – a microcosm of everything that happens in sex, dating, and relationships out there, but at warp speed and on steroids.

Frustrated with the constant rejection and stress that play parties entail, I stopped going to them for over a year. However, as I’ve been working on becoming a sex and relationship coach via the Somatica Training and learning all of the tools that they also teach in their Cockfidence workshop and so my curiosity was aroused. Would I be able to navigate a play party better with all of my new skills? I decided to try it out.

The party was a gorgeous home with a great view, a backyard with a large pool, and hot tub. The centerpiece of the living room was a lovely, bright red set of aerial silks hung from a hook in the ceiling. Several rooms upstairs and downstairs were converted to play spaces. It was a bright, sunny day and everyone was in a good mood.

I arrived a bit early and offered to help with setup. This helped me calm my own nerves down and get to know the hosts and organizers a bit. As more people gathered, I mingled and made friends. I was genuinely interested in who these people were and what drew them here.

Embodiment and being connected to my cock

As I started walking around, I felt a lot more embodied and connected to my desire and my cock. This is part of what Cockfidence is all about. Most of us guys live in our heads. We spend all of our time analyzing and performing, and very little time just being. This might sound a little bit woo-woo and abstract, but it has real consequences. When we meet women, we end up expressing our desire unnaturally and inauthentically. We are constantly thinking about putting on the right performance, trying to be seductive while worrying about doing things right, saying the right line, not being perceived as a creep or a perpetrator, trying to be nice.

News flash: the very effort we put on to not appear creepy is often the very thing that others perceive as creepy in the first place! Creepy is what sometimes happens when there is a disconnect between the different signals we give out. For example, there is a gorgeous woman in front of me that I really, really desire, but in my head, I’m going, “I need to play it cool and nice. Girls don’t like guys who just want sex. I need to show her I’m friendly.” As a result, the vibe I give out is a weird mishmash of desire and shame; creepy some of the time, not sexy all of the time.

During Somatica, we went through many different exercises in connecting with our own body and desire. I learned that being connected to my cock doesn’t mean I have to walk around with a massive hard-on all the time. It means that I can access, and I’m comfortable with my sexual desire. This means that I control better how I reveal it. That desire and the control over the desire is very sexy for women.

Cockfidence is a big mindset shift. being connected and embodied helps me access and express desire better, be more playful, and have an attitude of abundance instead of scarcity. But mindset is not all. A man also needs to have some real skills.

Feather touch: a gateway drug

A couple of years ago, touching a woman felt like an intractable mystery. “It’s too hard!” “You’re tickling me!”. It felt like constant guesswork to figure out what kind of touch a woman wanted. Somatica teaches a number of different sexy touches, and especially the importance of starting with feather touch, or light caressing and escalating from there. During the party, I ran into a really cute redhead. We started talking, and (after asking) I started caressing her arm. Her response? “Well, if you’re going to touch me like THAT, we need to find a better location and I need to take some clothes off!” The light caressing warmed her up and pretty soon, we were in the throes of a really passionate, sexy time.

Feather touch is a superpower. It’s a safe, sensual touch that most women enjoy immensely. It builds trust, and not a lot of men have mastered it. Learn it well, young padawan, and the force will be with you.

To gain Cockfidence you need to you need to learn not only feather touch but holding touch as well as different kinds of sexual attitudes, ranging from very tender and romantic to very passionate and dominant. It helps when a man has all of these tools in his repertoire.

If I did it, so can you…

Play parties can be terrifying if you’re new to them. As a guy, going by yourself can bring up lots and lots of issues: past rejection, shame, fear of being a perpetrator, fear of being creepy. However, it’s also possible with a little bit of work to learn how to have a really fun time, make awesome friends, be playful, and even have some really great sex. Somatica definitely helped me get into the Cockfidence mindset, and I look forward to lots more fun parties in the future.

 

  • Raj is a professional photographer and a student in this year’s Somatica Training. He is planning to start his own practice as a Sex and Relationship Coach when he graduates!

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You Gotta Have Some Low G Rendezvous

“We are seriously out of practice,” Callie said after plopping down next to her boyfriend Holden. It was a bit of an unusual couple for us since neither of them seemed angry or even that worried about the fact that they hadn’t had sex for the past 2 years. More than anything they were perplexed. Callie added, “In the beginning, our sex was insanely romantic, like every touch and every look and every move was full of meaning and promise.” Holden chimed in, “After a while, that just sort of faded and it didn’t really get replaced with anything.”

“That sounds like some pretty High G sex,” I said laughing.

“Hi G?” Holden queried.

“Yes, it seems to me that the two of you started out with some really high gravity sex, sex where each of you took yourselves and each other extremely seriously. Maybe it’s time for a little bit of Low G Sex, something more playful and less consequential.”

The great thing about Callie and Holden was that they had already come to terms with the fact that sex was going to be different in a long-term relationship. Many couples who are having trouble in their sexual relationship hold so tightly to the early experiences, they never get to find a new rhythm with each other. While we certainly wanted to help Callie and Holden find out how to have the hottest sex they could, we also just wanted to get them back into each other’s orbit again. We wanted to help them re-break the ice.

Low G Sex, sex where you decide that you are just going to get it on without taking it too seriously, can be a great antidote to making sure sex happens in the midst of kids, work, social commitments and all the craziness of everyday life. So, how do you have Low G Sex? First, you need to agree that that’s what you are going to do and that you are both up for it. Callie and Holden loved the idea, and left our office ready to start their next sexual experience with some naked tickling (neither had an aversion) and a pillow fight.

In the next session, they were both red-cheeked as they told their story. “It was ridiculous but it helped so much. We just decided, one way or another, we are going to screw around and get off and it turned out to be a lot easier than we thought. Once we dropped the idea that it had to be the most mind-blowing sex in the world, we both ended up satisfied. Since then we can’t stop laughing about it, we lock eyes and just crack up!”

In addition to pillow fights and tickling, here are some other ways to have Low G sex:

  • Have an Oral Sex Match – see which one of you can last the longest giving the other oral sex. For the man, it is a double challenge because he needs to try to last long as a giver and receiver. The woman just gets to have as many orgasms as she can as the receiver (this is better for couples who won’t take the competitive part of this too seriously).
  • Give Each Other Lap Dances – Make sure you pick your favorite songs and shake and grind your way to Funky Town.
  • Porno Roulette – go to a porn site, each of you think of a sex word, put them together and search away. If you end up with MILF creampie, so be it.
  • Have an Innovative Sex Toy Party – bring out your favorite sex toys (or the ones you’ve never opened) and try to use them in a way their manufacturer did not intend.
  • Play Truth or Dare – and dare your partner to do all the things you want them to do to you. Don’t forget to have them moon the dog or ice their nipples at least once!

Remember in a long-term relationship, if you wait for the perfect time to have perfect sex, you might just wait forever. Letting yourself be silly and more relaxed can keep sex flowing in your lives. Try some Low G sex tonight and blast off…

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Sacred Sex: The Difference Between Light and Dark Tantra

Sacred sex is not all kinds of sex, and by learning about the “dark” forces from an energetic perspective, you are able to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy sexual feelings often misconstrued as “sacred sex”.

Sexual energy is very powerful for better or worse and one of the primary control mechanisms for occult hostile forces to feed upon.

In this day and age, there is more and more talk about “Sacred Sex” and “Tantra”. Many of these teachings and workshops help people work through their sexual wounds, trauma, shame, and guilt and that is encouraging to see.

However, as I do more research, I’ve noticed that the emphasis in the Neo-Tantra world is often focused on reaching powerful multi-orgasms, sexual bliss, feeling sexy, having great sex, and an over-simplified idea of “love” and “heart connection”.

“Pay attention to whom you share your intimate energy with. Intimacy at this level intertwines your aural energy with the aural energy of the other person. These powerful connections, regardless of how insignificant you think they are, leave spiritual debris, particularly within people who do not practice any type of cleansing, physical, emotional or otherwise.” – Lisa Chase Patterson

Sacred Sex vs Neo-Tantra

Education and open discussions about sexuality are very important as part of our healing and awakening journey.

In the end “sex sells”. Be it in advertisements to make you buy a product you don’t need, or as “spiritual teachings” to promise you sexual bliss and potency.

It is important to keep in mind that many of these tantric teachings have become distorted, diluted, and “hijacked” by others to put their spin on things without considering some deeper aspects of our reality.

MUST READ: Tantra Is The Opposite Of Porn: Learning How To Actually Be Intimate

Most ancient spiritual teachings have been suppressed and distorted over thousands of years.

Yoga in the modern world has become a billion dollar industry, leaving out immense knowledge of the deeper esoteric teachings. The same has happened with Tantra teachings and sacred sex.

A complete spiritual teaching based on Truth will not only show you and teach you “the way out”. It will also show you the path towards union with the Divine.

True Tantric practices will transform your sexual center and not just the emotional, heart-centered sexuality relating to a partner.

True Tantra teachings will also show you the traps and pitfalls from a non-physical perspective. This “dark side of sexuality” is where occult forces can influence our sexual desires and we may mistake them as our own.

MUST READ: Tantra 101: A Super Simple Guide For Tantric Sex Beginners!

Why Is it important to learn About The Dark Sides Of Sexuality?

Through the years, the teachings of true Tantra have been fragmented. Much has been omitted to lead the seeker away from the true power of our sexuality that can be achieved when expressed in union with the Divine.

This confusion happens often in Tantra communities, polyamory circles, and “conscious festivals” where people feed off the attention of the other sex. They may engage in sexual feeding and justify “sex addiction” through spiritual terms when, in fact, “something else” is working through them.

By learning about the “dark” forces from an energetic perspective, you are able to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy sexual feelings often misconstrued as “sacred sex”.

3 Tips For Distinguishing Between Light And Dark Tantra

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#1 Be willing to learn

It’s really a matter of integrity and truth to educate yourself about what disturbs you. That is what “being conscious” implies, especially when attempting to teach others about conscious sex and sexuality.

#2 Be vulnerable, humble, and radically honest with yourself

We are all works in progress and the learning never stops.

#3 Keep an open mind because this is tricky territory

Any Sex Educator or Tantric Teacher who brings awareness to this topic could be labeled a “fear monger” or judged as a “crazy person”.

Conscience, Truth (whatever it may turn out to be) and Aspiration to the Divine are the main ingredients for the sincere seeker, student, and teacher alike who wish to awaken and help others to awaken.

Article by Bernhard Guenther  | Images by Adrian Borda

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Honoring Men’s Moon Cycle

I have come to observe through life, study, and anecdotal conversations that men, too, have their own equivalent to a woman’s “moon cycle” that is related to the release of their “seed”.

Within the theory of Ayurveda, men’s shukra (seed or seminal fluid) is the energetic equivalent to women’s pushpa (the blood of their womb) and sexual fluid (also called shukra).

These fluids are distilled through many days of work from foods and liquids to become a precious, life-creating substance. Although semen is created daily (85 million sperm per day per testicle), it takes 72 to 90 days to develop mature sperm.

No wonder men in the after-flow of a love union are like satisfied, lazy lions, completely reclining, with no interest in doing anything whatsoever—just like women, who feel the need to seriously chill at the onset and during their monthly flow. This is what I call a man’s moon cycle.

Men’s Moon Cycle & The Lingering Lunar Quality of Lovemaking

Putting aside the many theories and practices about men releasing their seed, which is really very individual, seasonal, constitutional and unique to every man, there is a wonderful “lunar quality” that men and women embody after making love.

This blissful post-period of absolute lunar, yin, receptive, relaxed, content, open, and loving space that men enter into, reffered here as their moon cycle, deserves to be honored…particularly by women who are often the ones to start poking that Lion King to get up and do something again.

Ironically, as many women friends admit, we often dismiss men when they are so beautifully resting in their lunar nature, a quality women long to be reciprocated when it’s our turn in the cyclical flow.

MUST-READ: The Secret Power of Sex During the New Moon

Just as men are often resistant to honor their ladies on their “moon cycle”, when they need the most loving and nurturing support, ladies need to check ourselves if we find we don’t honor men in their spontaneous—but very real release of precious essence—their own “mini-moon.

For those precious few hours, to a few days, these Lions can be adored as “Moon Kings” too. I have yet to meet a man who is not into this idea as they know it to be innately true.

How to Recognize and Honor the “Moon Cycle”

There are similarities and differences between the woman and the man’s experience of the “moon cycle”.

  1. Male and female orgasm naturally produces a cascade of oxytocin and a regenerating rhythmic entrainment between our brainwaves and our heart rhythm. This creates the feeling of a downward stream of bliss that is healing for every level of our being.
  2. The relaxation that follows after reaching this peak is a sacred time for men to experience the healing power of ida nadi,the “lunar current” of our parasympathetic nervous system, by resting in the whole body surrender.
  3. A woman’s sexual release creates the same melting-into-being, but is often energizing. It is not anywhere near as “depleting of essence” as for men; hence the rhythmic differences that can emerge post-union.
  4. Men and women can begin to authentically recognize the beauty of ida nadi within the shukra-pushpa (seed-ovum) release cycle. They can then give that support and love to each other by creating a natural rhythm of serving the Moon King-Queen.

Honoring the Moon King-Queen can be in the smallest of ways of royal treatment, like feeding your queen or king in bed or making a special ojas tonic. Ayruveda recommends warm almond milk with honey and cashews sprinkled on top..yum!

You start to love both being and serving the Moon King-Queen (I made up these titles and they work!)

Ladies and Gentlemen, Gay, Bi, or Straight, let us learn to love our Moon Queen or King and help evolve our collective culture into greater balance.

By Shiva Rea | Artwork by Martha Neal

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The Magical Power of Semen & How it Can Hijack Your Brain

It seems that the power of semen may be able to hijack your brain! .

Menno Schilthuizen wrote an amazing book call In Nature’s Nether Regions where he explains how the chemical cocktail found in semen can hijack the female brain. The study has only been performed in insects so far, but who knows, maybe soon they will uncover the same magical effects of semen on the human brain?

The Magical Powers of Semen

“We already know that, even in humans, there is more to this substance than meets the eye. It contains proteins that, when mixed together, can forge a mating plug. It also contains sugars as sperm fuel, proteins that protect the sperm cells from the acidic vaginal environment, zinc that keeps the sperm’s DNA in good shape, and chemical compounds that prevent the sperm cells from becoming overly enthusiastic prematurely.

But this list of ingredients is just the tip of the iceberg. Human ejaculates are home to hundreds of different proteins […]. Even in the ejaculate of the lowly banana fly Drosophila melanogaster, researchers have identified no fewer than 133 different kinds of proteins. One hundred and thirty-three! And this excludes the many proteins that are in the sperm cells themselves. […] 

[…]Banana fly researchers are quite confident that some of the ingredients of these biochemical cocktails are involved in a kind of neuropsychological manipulation. They hijack a female’s hormonal system by shutting down her sex drive, causing her to go completely off males for up to several days after having received a load of semen.

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Females that have recently been inseminated start kicking away their suitors or, when harassed, extend their egg-laying tube, which blocks access to the vagina. They even begin exuding a scent that renders them unattractive. All this is induced by semen components that end up in her bloodstream. […] The whole process is akin to leaving a mental mating plug.

How Can The Power of Semen Hijack Your Brain

One of the substances that has  such an “antiaphrodisiac” effect is sex peptide, a small protein molecule—small enough to pass straight through the wall of the vagina into the female’s bloodstream—that is produced in the glands that sit next to a male fly’s genitalia. […]

The sex peptide that is floating free in the semen does its work quickly: even before mating is fully over, it has already seeped through the vagina wall into the female’s blood where it makes the female’s interest in other males plummet.

The initial shot of sex peptide causes females to give males the cold shoulder. Meanwhile, the sex peptide that sits on the sperm tails is beginning to break free, sustaining a steady IV drip of antiaphrodisiac that lasts for about a week—enough time to give the sperm a free passage, unchallenged by other males’ sperm.

The Secret Is In Semen’s Chemical Cocktail

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Sex peptide is only one of the multitude of chemical compounds in semen. What do the rest do? Well, research in other insects can give us an inkling of what such substances might be capable of.

The semen of the American fire beetle Neopyrochroa flabellata, for example, is spiked with the poisonous compound cantharidin known as the infamous aphrodisiac “Spanish Fly”.

Another substance, the protein PSP1, is ejaculated by the male corn earworm moth into his mate and there immediately shuts down the production of pheromones, meaning that other males (which totally rely on scent) can no longer find her.

Do you know that women also ejaculate? Find more here: Squirting 101: A Splishy-Splashy Guide for Evolved People

And then there’s Argas persicus. In this tick, believe it or not, the male produces a soda-bottle-like spermatophore from his genitalia, takes it into his jaws, bites off the cap, and then sticks it, neck first, into the female’s vagina. […] And at least one of these contents is a compound that cranks up the female’s egg production rate—which may mean more offspring to be sired by these sperm.

What’s So Special About  Semen

This makes one wonder whether some of the many proteins in human semen could have manipulative effects. If they do, this would be one way to explain the results of a study by Gordon Gallup and Rebecca Burch, where they had almost three hundred female students fill out questionnaires relating to sex and mental health.

The results showed that women who always use a condom, and so are protected against the effects of proteins in the semen, score almost 50 percent higher on a scale of depression-related symptoms than women who never use condoms, which might indicate (but doesn’t prove) that substances in semen interfere with the female nervous system.

There is also evidence that pregnant women who have unprotected sex with their partner during pregnancy are less likely to suffer from so-called preeclampsia than women who use a condom.

This might mean that substances in the semen take over part of the regulation of the woman’s immune system.” In Nature’s Nether Regions by Menno Schilthuizen

Crazy isn’t it?

Studies like this, show us how much we still don’t know about the ways in which sex influences our brain. But it is definitely clear that making love has a profound impact on us physically, emotionally, and mentally. That is why is can make you “lose your mind” and it can feel so incredibly surreal.

Please, share with us what do you think about the power of semen & Menno Schilthuizen discoveries.

By Menno Schilthuizen  | Featured Artist: Thomas Sailot

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The Secret To Deep Connection With Your Partner

In order to have a deep connection, you need to expose yourself completely.

Intimacy is often mistaken for physical closeness, such as hugging, cuddling, kissing, and sex. Yet, if there is no deep connection & emotional intimacy, physical intimacy can only go so far.

For many people, physical intimacy comes easier than emotional intimacy. To truly open up to a partner, we need to feel safe. We need to be able to share our fears, mistakes, and pains.

In order to create a deep connection with your partner, you need to be able to connect deeply with yourself first.

If you are not comfortable with yourself, you cannot fully receive someone else. No matter how hot the sex, if emotional intimacy is blocked the relationship becomes limited.

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Our bodies provide constant clues to help us distinguish between what is safe and what isn’t. The more we are in touch with our bodies, the more we can receive these clues.

There are many ways to get in touch with our bodies. Bodywork, Yoga, Pole Dancing, Dance, Qi Gong, Tai Qi, for example, help to increase self-awareness and sensitivity to the energetic clues of our environment. It also helps to release energy blocks, stress, and trauma that is manifested in our bodies from our past and through daily living.

Awareness of our bodies also connects us to our vulnerability.

When it comes to intimacy, our deepest feelings are often buried under layers of “armor”.  They are not easy to access so we rationalize these deeper sensations away. We then judge ourselves for not feeling safe enough to open up.

Don’t listen too much to the mind. Trust your body and don’t judge yourself for what you feel.

So, What Exactly Is a Deep Connection?

Emotional intimacy goes hand in hand with trust. It is knowing that our vulnerabilities will be received with compassion and empathy.

It starts with being compassionate with ourselves. We need to love ourselves – the dark and light – neither inflating or diminishing ourselves in any way.

It entails providing a safe space for our partner to express their vulnerabilities

Sometimes, we’re unconsciously looking for a “savior” instead of a partner, but it is a projection of what we have denied ourselves: healthy self-love, vulnerability, and inner safety.

We need to give to ourselves first or we will keep looking for the illusory partner.

3 Easy Ways to Develop Self-Love & Deep Connection

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Living in a world with ever increasing technology, we have become more and more disconnected from our bodies. Here are 3 simple ways for overcoming the main barriers to a healthy self-love.

#1 Avoid Excessive Use of Technology

We are glued to our laptops and smartphones and therefore have become unaware of how we carry ourselves.

It makes sense, then, that the less we use technology, the more we open ourselves up to self-awareness.

#2 Learn About Emotional Intelligence

Mainstream education doesn’t teach us about body awareness and how to listen to our intuition. We reward rational intellect but have forgotten to nurture our emotional and physical intelligence.

Caring for your emotional intelligence and making it part of your lifelong learning will help you develop yourself and build intimate relationships with others.

#3 Still Your Busy Mind

Most of us are so out of touch with our bodies that we miss the messages that could help us to make wiser decisions. Our rational mind tends to over-ride the subtler impressions, such as the gut feeling, and the energetic clues that are perceived by the body.

Pay attention to your thoughts. When you find yourself being overwhelmed by what’s on your mind, it may be time to bring out the yoga mat.

When cultivating emotional intelligence and intimacy, remember that a healthy body-mind is the foundation for good health and relationships: physical, emotional, and mental. When we’re truly honest with ourselves about what we need, it becomes easier to be honest with our partners. Everybody wins.

By Bernhard Guenther |Featured Artist: Dela Canvas

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